Marrying a Woman of Mother's Choice

Marital Accad

Reno's entourage and family had arrived at Tenri's residence. Before entering the bride's house, Reno and her entourage are treated to traditional performances. Called the bridal pick-up process, Reno was greeted with the appearance of Anggaru or Aru Tubarania.

Punna Sallang Takammaya, Aruku Ri Dallekanta, Pangkai Jerakku, Tinra’ Bate Onjokku. Pauwang Ana’ Ri Boko, Install Ana’tanjari, Tumakkanaya, Karaeng

Natanarupai Kananna's. Sikammajinne Aruku Ri Dallekanta, Natarima Pangngaruku Nadasi. Nasaba’ Alla Ta’Ala. Salama’……

(When I will keep this promise. As I pledge before you. Peg my belly. My name's in history. Tell the next generation. Message the grandchildren. If only able to pledge, Karaeng but not able to do service. Such is my pledge before you. May God grant him. Amians.)

Thus Reno was greeted with Aru, accompanied by Tunrung Pakanjarak and Puik-Puik. Making his hair goosebumps hearing the last sentence of the Panngaru.

Not to forget, he was picked up with traditional traditional Makassar tribal dances, usually PADUPPA dances. The dance is intended to pick up the bride and the group. This dance is indeed a pickup dance. Not only the bride but also for traditional events, office pick-up and others.

The bridal party was about to enter the house of the bride, but apparently there still had to be greeted with a procession of Akkiok Bunting or calling the bride into the house.

A middle-aged woman with rice in hand was chanting a Bride pickup verse.

Yes dende....

Yes dende....

Nia' tojeng mi anne battu Bunting, kutayanga. Salloa kuminasai; Burakne buraknena buraknea.

Where it means is,

Yes dende....

Yes dende....

Has come with a truly anticipated and expected bride indeed a man; a truly man!

The verse flowed beautifully, making the groups feel touched. But at once the group became boisterous when the bride-caller ended his verse.

Bunting tabunting antamak aseng maki mae ... (Brothers and not brides, come into our house).

Instantly the group entered the house of the bride. Reno looked nervous, a few grains of sweat seemed to flow down her temple. The traditional wedding dress of the Makassar tribe feels very heavy. To be king in a day.

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"I ACCEPT HER MARRIAGE AND THE MARRIAGE OF TENRI RUKMANA SARI BINT BAHARUDDIN DAENG NGITUNG WITH HER MASKAWIN WHO WAS PAID IN CASH."

Although he was groggy and one of the times, Reno finally managed to also recite the qobul ijab which since last night made him unable to sleep.

"HUH?" ask pak penghulu.

The groggy feeling that had been holding him back had slowly disappeared. Reno was finally able to cheer up her smile even a little.

While in the bride's room, Tenri gave thanks at last the kabul ijab procession went smoothly. Olla who had been with him since, the two of them hugged each other and cried.

Shortly after, Reno was brought into Tenri's room. That's where the furore happened. They will meet for the first time.

Reno deg degan, let alone Tenri. Since then his palms have been sweating from a bit of nervousness. In front of the door of Tenri's room there was a guard, his name Pasungke pakkekbu (the person who will open the door). Usually the door will be opened after being given a certain amount of money.

Laughter and shouting ensued, when Reno had now entered Tenri's room. Tenri was getting nervous, he lowered his head and did not dare to look at Reno. Some people around him are heard to mention that Reno is very handsome. Many praised his good looks. Also no less many who praised the beauty of Tenri on her wedding day.

"The name is also a mate, a beautiful woman will be paired with a handsome man. How lucky are you two" exclaimed one of the men present.

Everyone cheered too. Reno is also unable to hide her nervousness, especially when she is asked to insert a ring into Tenri's ring finger. He grabbed Tenri's hand and passed a ring to the woman's ring finger.

"The fingers are smooth and pliable, the skin is white and bright. Does my wife really have a pretty face? I'm curious."

Reno said in her heart, she wanted to confirm that immediately but she was also timid. As Tenri grabbed his hand to exchange rings, his hands were so sweaty. The most thrilling thing was, when Reno was asked to kiss Tenri on the forehead.

"Ciee ...."

"Cie .. cie .. bunting berua bela."

Such was the small scream that reached Reno's ears. Makes her groggy but she does too. Actually when Tenri was about to kiss his hand he could already see the face of Tenri, a beautiful woman. That's what his mind says.

"Don't-mi'm shy, it's legal to be husband and wife." Ledk someone and greeted the boisterous laughter present.

After all the process on the contract day was completed, the two were escorted to sit in the chair.

Tenri was nervous. Many times people ask him to smile but still his nervousness does not want to disappear. Reno clasped Tenri's hand for the first time and it made Tenri even more cold. He was first touched by a grown man. It certainly made Tenri not used to it and he was really embarrassed to show it in front of the invited guests.

Reno thinks all the wedding process will be completed after the agreement, it turns out there are other processes. After all the wedding events are over including the reception, then the two brides are then paraded to the family home of the groom. This procession is called Nilekka. The two will spend several nights at the groom's family home before they both leave (appala’ kana; Makassar). The woman who is now officially part of the big family will give the sarong to her in-laws. This sarong as an offering of his son-in-law to his father-in-law and also reciprocated by the in-law with a sarong.

The two brides will arrive back at the bride's house, and there will be a final procession called appakabajikang or mutual repair/refinement. After the completion of this process, it means the completion of all Makassar tribal marriage arrangements.

Reno and Tenri have not yet been able to adapt. Both are trying to get used to it.

"Finally the mother's ideals of delivery too, son. My son Tenri, my promise to your late parents has been fulfilled. Accept Reno more or less, covering each other's disgrace. Because after you get married then there are no more Tenri and Reno but you two. Remember that well my son, you too, son of Reno, as a gentle bainennu (keep your wife well). Buraknea intu Pappaunnaji nitakgalak (the man's speech will be held)."

Such was Reno's mother's advice when they both asked themselves to promise to build the household ark lovingly.

*Connected.