Don't Blame Me for Seizing Your Husband

104. JSAMS

In life there must be some things and events that inevitably we have to accept sincerely and airy chest. When facing it, it often feels heavy and unbearable. But as human beings, we must strive to live it.

The support of those closest to you will mean a lot in difficult times like this. With them, we will not feel alone and abandoned.

It had been six months since Retno's departure, Gadhing began to accept her circumstances. Although both of his children were still not accepted by the Retno family, he did not dispute this.

Restoring his heart and self, caring for his two children with his own hands even though there are baby sitters who take care of him while he works.

His second son was named Asnan Dzaki Firdaus meaning a boy who is a second child and has intelligence in thinking.

Asna was able to sit without being restrained by objects anymore. The boy also looked friendly and smiled easily.

Currently, the widower of two children was in Malang with his two children.

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Mitoni, in Javanese tradition, is a series of life cycle ceremonies. Mitoni itself comes from the words ‘am’ and ‘pitu’. ‘Am’ indicates a verb, while ‘pitu’ means seven or the count of the seventh.

At the residence of Buya Niko and Mother Fadia looks crowded because they are working together to prepare a mitoni Jimmy and Nasya.

Ibu Mayang and Tiara also returned to Indonesia because of this event. At this time, the grandmother and granddaughter were resting because they had just arrived this morning at the residence of Mother Fadia.

Nasya smiled to welcome her husband who had just returned from the mosque to pray on Friday.

Jimmy kissed Nasya's forehead then lowered his head, stroked and kissed Nasya's stomach. "A complaint when I left?" ask her softly.

Nasya smiled and then shook his head. "Nothing, my mom. We are full" she explained because since her pregnancy stepped on the fifth month, she has been able to eat rice even a little. The food is more vegetables and fruit only.

Jimmy stroked Nasha's head and led her into the house. Since Retno's departure and helping Gadhing handle the case of the man's mother-in-law, Jimmy began to get used to it if Nasya and Gadhing would continue to be in touch because they were still family.

Like at the moment. After entering the house, Emier ran to Nasya. The boy was two years old and was more fluent in speech than any other boy his age.

Jimmy swiftly held Emier because the boy was stretching his hands towards Nasya.

"Just hold papi, yeah. Mami has two sisters in her stomach" said Jimmy and the boy nodded.

Nasya smiled seeing that. His mind immediately imagined a future where Jimmy would play behind the house with their two children, while he would sit with Tiara watching the three of them.

"Let's eat," Nasha asked and walked towards the kitchen.

Inside the kitchen, Gadhing was sitting on the floor with Asnan, the man was feeding his second son.

At the dinner table, Nasya sees Gadhing so painstakingly feeding Asnan while preparing food for Jimmy.

"You've eaten, haven't you?" ask Jimmy to Nasya.

Nasya immediately turned to see Jimmy hear the question. "Here you go, mas."

Jimmy took a breath. He saw Nasya watching Gadhing in the corner of the kitchen feeding his second son.

"Call Gadhing, baby. Looks like he hasn't eaten yet" Jimmy said making Nasya look at him.

"Mas. Don't get me wrong, yeah."

Nasya was afraid that Jimmy would misunderstand and there would be a commotion at the event.

Nasya smiled and walked over to Gadhing. "Mas!" he called slowly and Gadhing turned his head towards Nasya.

Both of their eyes met and Nasya immediately decided on that view. "Dine with Jimmy. I'll take Asnan's bribe" Nasya said.

Gadhing nodded and handed Asnan's lunch bowl.

Gadhing sat next to Emier and served what his first son had asked him to do while eating his food.

"Thank you for taking my kids off, sir!" Gadhing is still not used to calling Jimmy by name because that's what family says.

"Call Jimmy, just" said Jimmy, then embraced by Gadhing.

After lunch, Jimmy and Nasha go around the village to ask for water from 7 sources.

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With the theme of Muslim kebaya, Nasya looks very beautiful with a light blue Muslim kebaya.

As the first mitoni event is sungkeman to the prospective father or husband.

Nasya rested in front of Jimmy who was sitting in the chair that had been provided. After that both Jimmy and Nasya gathered in front of Mayang's mother.

Mayang's mother held Jimmy and Nasya's heads in tears. This is the first time he has done a procession of methony for his son. At Jimmy's first wedding, no one was doing this because they knew the child's marriage was not okay.

After the condolence to Mayang's mother, Jimmy and Nasya turned to rest in front of Buya Niko and Mother Fadia alternately.

The next procession is the flush. Siraman is the stage where the prospective mother is bathed. The water is a symbol of self-cleaning, both physical and soul. Water itself comes from 7 sources.

Just like now, Nasya has been flush as a prospective mother. After that, the procession broke the egg by the prospective father, Jimmy. According to belief, this procession intends to give birth smoothly.

Breaking janur and bronolan is a procession after egg rupture. Then the next procession is the breaking of coconuts.

The father-to-be took one of the coconuts with his eyes closed. Coconuts are taken then placed in the flush area, and broken. This is done to estimate the gender of the baby.

Coconut used is a young ivory coconut that has been carved images of Kamajaya and Dewi Ratih.

After the flush is done, the mother-to-be will dry the body and replace the clothes previously used. This dressing ceremony will use 7 types of fabric that symbolizes 7 months and hope for the baby. The seven fabrics symbolize such as Sidomukti (Happiness), Sidoluhur (Glory), Semen Rama (For the love of both parents lasts forever), Udan Iris (For his presence is pleasant for those around him), and, Chicken Claw (Reliance), Lasem patterned striated fabric (Simplicity). At the time of the use of the 6th cloth, the invited guests will be responded “less suitable..” and the 7th with ‘match.”

The next event continued after the study was held after Maghrib.

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The studies are over. Not to forget also Jimmy and Nasya to support orphans and dhuafa.

Next is a procession where prospective fathers and prospective mothers demonstrate selling cendol and rujak. Where prospective fathers protect prospective mothers when selling. Uniquely, the money used is coins from clay or crew.

The last event is the tumpeng cut. Tumpeng contains rice with six small tumpengs around it.

Jimmy gave Nasya warm tea and clutched his wife after drinking. "I'm happy because of you."