Turning Hell into Heaven

49. About ta'aruf

Doctor Angga smiled. Although it was only a small smile with a little duration of time, it had given relief in the space of Dara's heart. At least Doctor Angga is awake means that the worrying thing about his health condition has passed. Stay doing intense treatment for the sake of recovery only. That is what happened to Dara.

Dara got up from her chair. He stepped foot onto the sofa in the corner of the other side of the room, approaching Jesika and Bayu who were chatting.

"They're awake" said Dara.

"Really?" Jesika soars in excitement. Without further ado he left Bayu and rushed to the side of Doctor Angga.

"Thank God. Angga, right now what do you feel? can you recognize me? look, what is this and how much?" Jesika thrusts a row of questions, then shows his fingers, index and middle fingers are made to form a frame v.

"Jes, I'm bumping into not amnesia" Doctor Angga said with intonation and a flat gaze.

Jesika covered her mouth with her smooth hand, "Ops, yes. Sorry. hehehe. I'm too glad you're sober" Jesika said shyly.

"Assalamu'alaikum's chat. Alhamdulillah, God willing, hopefully in the future will recover and recover as usual," Bayu approached and was standing right beside Doctor Angga's bed.

"Wa'alaikumsalam's chat. Aamiin," Doctor Angga chimed in the suave Bayu.

Not long after, after Dara informed the administration that the patient on behalf of Angga was conscious, a Doctor with the nurses entered the room and conducted an examination to Doctor Angga.

"Everything's fine. Staying recovery period. Doctor Angga has a strong physique so his recovery period is faster and will be able to get out of here really, really" explained a Doctor. In addition to handling Doctor Angga, the Doctor is also an acquaintance of Doctor Angga.

"Thanks," Doctor Angga stared at his professional friend.

"Sip. I'm out first, get well, Doc," the doctor and his nurses left the room.

"Jesika," Doctor Angga called.

"Yes?" Jesika turned towards Doctor Angga.

"Thank you for taking me and taking care of me," Doctor Angga looked at Jesika at a glance then directed his expressionless gaze toward the ceiling of the nursery ceiling.

"It's nothing. As a friend, that's what it's supposed to be, right?" Jesika smiles.

"So, what business were you going to see me on that day?"

Doctor Angga reversed his memory on the day of the incident. Where before Lukman barged into his room, Jesika by phone reported that he would visit Dr. Angga.

Vaaogb. Before the visit took place, Doctor Angga who was assisted by Jesika instead ended up in the hospital to get help and underwent treatment due to severe injuries he got from Lukman.

"On that, I who have moved on from you, want you to find a partner. After we separated until now, nothing could fill my heart anymore. Tired and empty tofu so single," said Jesika casually moaned in response to Doctor Angga's question.

"You're getting married?" ask Dr. Angga again.

"No! marriage, don't rush. Loss dong married when my career began to rise gini leaves, "sarge Jesika fast.

"So, did the couple make the point of dating?" doctor Angga asked.

Jesika pointed both of her thumbs at Doctor Angga. With a sumringah Jesika said, "just right!"

"Sorry Jesika, Angga, may I join you in this conversation?" said Bayu who sat alone side by side with Doctor Angga's bed.

"That's it, straight away. Use all permits. Kayak want to apply for work anyway Mr. this," said Jesika with a laugh afterwards.

Bayu looked at Doctor Angga, asking for a response to the question he was asking. Doctor Angga who seemed to understand the purpose of Bayu's gaze, nodded his head slowly, an encouraging sign.

"Jesika, if you need a partner, it's good not to date because our religion forbids it. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to set up or anything else. It's just that, as fellow Muslims we are asked to remind each other not to be included in the group of losers. Especially since we know each other. Therefore, my speech please consider as advice not a threat"

Bayu began to talk, joining the chat Jesika and Doctor Angga before.

"Look down, no problem. I'm glad that someone would remind me, for free, right? hahaha"

"Keep if not dating? straight up marriage?" Jesika asked in a plain tone.

"It's better" replied Bayu.

"And before marriage should know our partner first, if not dating, how can you get to know each other try. Isn't that right?"

Jesika looked at Dara who was sitting next to her, hoping for a sentence of defense from Dara. Although the results are nil, because Dara just smiled wryly in response to Jesika's question.

"True, it must know each other first before marriage but not through courtship. Rather than ta'aruf" Bayu calmly answered Jesika's questions containing the protests.

"What is the difference between the two?" Jesika scrunched her forehead. He focused his gaze on Bayu who was sitting right opposite him, He was seriously waiting for an answer from Bayu.

"The difference between the two is quite a lot. Located in the inequality in terms of purpose, nature, way of communication, the length of the relationship, also differ greatly about the pattern of the meeting. In courtship the pretext of the introductory period but, the practice is generally through unlimited communication aimed at having fun together, known by many people as well. Isn't that right?"

Bayu began to obey the curiosity desire of Jesika.

"If the courtship is so anyway, it is to show affection too." Jesika.

"good. What about ta'aruf? ta'aruf's goal is also to get to know each other between the opposite sex. However, his nature was closed and secret. Only certain parties who know the process of ta'aruf undertaken, namely the family who became the media in communicating. Communication in Ta'aruf is also restricted. Limited to the need for wedding preparation. Likewise about the length of time ta'aruf. There are clear stages and limited time because the basic principle is faster better. Why that? because ta'aruf is a process to get to know each other before establishing a marriage bond that is intended to get a family blessed,"

Bayu ended his explanation. Jesika, Dara, and Doctor Angga seemed to be digesting Bayu's sentence just now.

"True, very different from dating" Jesika said spontaneously.

"Before we were married to Mas Lukman, we dated. It turns out that years of relationship in the name of the peddling period also does not guarantee a happy household and survive to His heaven. While Susi and her husband, up to now live a happy household life away from the tempest. And they previously underwent ta'aruf."

Dara's confession made her three interlocutors nod their heads.

"There is a word of Allah SWT in the Qur'an precisely in Surah Al-Isra verse 32, meaning this, and do not approach adultery, it is a vile deed, and a bad road. Zina in question is one of them is the relationship between men and women who are tied up by dating status. Well, approaching it is forbidden, especially directly doing it. It is also one of the causes of households can be far from sakinah, because first in the beginning with sins. Nauzubillah and Wallahu a'lam." Added Bayu.

"So ta'aruf can be said to be an honorable way for Muslim men and women to get to know each other so that the marriage relationship can reach a family that is really mawaddah warrahmah, is that it?" Jesika asked for certainty over his conclusion.

"Yes, I guess so. So, does Jesika still want to date?" answer at once ask Bayu.

"I still don't know" replied Jesika as it is.

"Where did you explain that?" Jesika again asked Bayu, who despite being acquainted with each other, from earlier he called Bayu with the call 'Father', as if the call was specifically for Bayu.

"From the books I read and through the studies I follow," Bayu happily informed.

"Then take me to the study of the Father. Let me be more in my science so I can be sure not to date" proposed Jesika.

"Byeah, I'll send you the address of the assembly" Bayu accepted Jesika's proposal.

"All right now, lend me the book you meant. Let there be his friend this jomblowati in the face of desolation," sloppy Jesika again.

Bayu laughs. Dara and Doctor Angga smiled lightly.

"Why? is there something funny about borrowing a book?" Jesika responds to Bayu's laughter.

"No. Not borrowing a funny book but, the reason to want to read the book that makes butterflies in the stomach fly. Everything through angels will be recorded as worship or sin. It is advisable to read books to add insight, it is better to accompany in times of loneliness consider the bonus only, not the main goal. Ease so the science is blessed," Bayu explained with a calming intonation.

"I see, okay then. Ready-to-implement. Lend me the book you meant earlier yes sir, I want to increase knowledge" Jesika corrected the sentence.

"god willing" Bayu nodded and smiled.

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