My Little Woman's
Gofur and His Family
2 O'clock in the afternoon, after the completion of the dhuhur prayer. Rahma helps the umy to cook while aby cleans the main bathroom which is usually used for guests who come.
After finishing cooking and clean clean, someone arrived knocking on the door of the living room.
"Darling, please open the door." Said umy who was sitting casually with her husband to relieve fatigue.
Rahma walked towards the door and opened it. But Rahma immediately gawked to see the guest who turned out to be Mr. Go and his family.
"Assalamu'alaikum." Said Mr. Go.
"Vaalaikumsalam. Let's go inside the mas." Say polite Rahma. Mr. Go and his family immediately entered and sat on the sova.
"I'll call umy and aby first." Rahma groggy. Without waiting for an answer, Rahma immediately went to call aby and umynya who again sat relaxed behind the house.
"Aby, umy Mr. Go has come, uh I mean Mas Go and his family have come." I said happily. Umy and Aby immediately changed clothes and then went to the living room.
"Assalamu'alaikum." His father Gofur said, seeing aby and umy coming out into the living room.
"Getishalight." Aby replied while shaking hands with Papa and his grandfather Gofur. Umy shook hands with his mother Ghofur. I also chose to go back for a while to leave food and drinks for all of them. It did not take long because everything was prepared and just take it to the living room. I put the food and drink on the table.
"Please drink." Umy said and they just smiled while nodding while drinking the drink I brought just now.
"Oh yeah, Rahma's son, who helped my father, right?" ask Fanni, Gofur's mother.
"Yes tan." Rahma replied ashamed.
"Don't call tan dong, call me mama. Will soon be my mother's daughter-in-law." Fanni smiled
"Yes ma." I'm ashamed.
"First mama hoped to see you again, beautiful and kind woman. And thank God for granting my mother's request and now you will be my mother's daughter-in-law." Fanni said kindly.
"Thank you, son, for helping my grandfather at that time. Grandpa is grateful to have met you and now you will be the son-in-law of my granddaughter." Said the grandfather who was a little senile but I don't know why he still remembers Rahma.
"Same cake, I'm also happy to be able to help grandfather." Rahma.
"Oh yes, sir, we have come here to propose to the father's daughter to be the wife of our son" said his father Ghofur.
"If my wife and I would approve, but go back to my son because whatever will live it is my daughter so who has the right to answer him or his unwillingness is my daughter. How son, do you want to accept him as your husband?" aby asked Rahma's father.
"He's aby, I take it." Rahma replied without ba bi bu again.
"Alhamdulillah." Speak to everyone in the living room.
"Keep what's next?" ask umy
"I want to have a marriage and a marriage of sirri at once." Gofur answered while looking at Rahma who thought she was so beautiful today when Rahma just dressed up as usual.
"But if married, my son is very young. She's afraid she can't carry out her duties as a wife." Umy.
"I understand. I will not ask for my rights as a husband. I just want when I shake his hand and touch him, I don't sin. Is not in an era when orgasm is widely spread, it is recommended to marry young.
The Prophet ordered the young men to get married immediately. Because this is a solution to reduce orgasm.
Nabi Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda,
Imam Ahmad once gave advice,
“Supposed people in this day and age to seek debt agr get married immediately, so that he does not look at things that are not halal so that the charity done becomes useless.” (Ta’zhim As-Sunnah, pp.23).
If so in the time of Imam Ahmad, what about today?!
It is neither a condition nor an obligation in Islam that anyone who undertakes a marriage contract should immediately get together and have intercourse. That is, it is possible for a husband and wife to separate after the marriage contract, until the deadline as agreed.
Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam married Aisyah radhiyallahu ‘anha when he was 7 years old.and he had just met with Aisyah, when Aisyah was 9 years old.
From Urwah, from her aunt, Aisyah radhiyallahu ‘anha, she told me, saying,
That Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam married Aisyah radhiyallahu ‘anha when Aisyah was 7 years old.and Aisyah got together with Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam when she was 9 years old, and Aisyah got together with Nabi shallallahu, while Aisyah's toys are with her. And the Prophet Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam died when Aisha was 18 years old. (CHR. 3546 Muslims)
In another story, Aisyah radhiyallahu ‘anha also told me, Aisyah radhiyallahu,
“Prophet shallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam married me when I was 6 years old, and he was at home with me when I was 9 years old.” (Muttafaqun ‘alaih).
All of this history is the proposition that married couples, who do not have to directly gather. They may also delay according to agreement.
Ar-Ruhaibani said,
If one of the husband and wife request postponed then it must be postponed for a period of time according to the prevailing custom, for preparation for the party requesting postponed, such as 2 or 3 days, for example, in order to take the easiest. And the reference in this case goes back to what is applicable in the community, because there is no standard reference there, so it must be returned to the traditions that apply in the community. (Mathalib Ulin Naha, 5/257).
It could also limit the delay back to the agreement of both parties.
In the Fatwa Shabakah Islamiyah is stated,
Shari'a does not specify a specific time limit as the range between agreements with gatherings. Therefore, the reference in this range goes back to ‘urf (community tradition) or the agreement between husband and wife. (Fatwa Syabakah Islamiyah, no. 263188)
Someone who is already tied to marriage, they still have the right to postpone the gathering, as agreed. Either because of learning considerations, or input from parents or because of other considerations, including consideration of living problems.
I promise I won't have sex like a husband and wife until Rahma graduates from school. And after graduation, we'll remarry state-by-state in KUA and after that I'll ask for my rights as husband. But before Rahma graduated and we were just married sirri, I would just have a relationship like a courtship. Dating but the halal version. And for Rahma's needs will be my full responsibility. And because we are the same as living in Jakarta, then I can be more free and free to guard and protect Rahma who will later become my wife. And I make sure this marriage won't leak anywhere because enough of my family and Rahma's extended family know not to interfere with Rahma's activities out there." Said Mr. Go explained at length.
"Will I as Rahma's parents agree, continue the marriage contract when?" ask aby.
"What if it's tonight?" ask Gofur's papa.
"I'll invite some of my family as witnesses and also invite a Kyai to marry them." Aby smiled kindly.
"Well because the wedding has been determined how if you eat first, surely you have not had lunch, right?" tanya umy and Pak Go just nodded their heads with a smile. Actually before he and his family to Rahma's house, Pak Go and his exit had eaten at the restaurant but because it was not good with Rahma's umy offer, finally Pak Go agreed.
Rahma and her umy immediately prepared a plate on the table not forgetting to fill the water in the glass. When they finished, they all sat down and ate together. Mr. Go and Rahma occasionally stole a glance and smiled.
