LOVE OF JUITA

Permission From Mother

The grand ceremony of the king and queen a day Sarah was over. Sarah has happily anchored her ship in the ocean named household. Julia's prayer accompanies Sarah in the hope that Sarah's housewife survives to the destination. Able to fight the harshness of the waves and the cruelty of the storm.

Julia returns to real life to be an ordinary girl who has to work hard to move on.

***

Dinner served Mother looks delicious, chicken calio and vegetable shoots of boiled sweet potatoes as lalapan. The aroma of chili onions is enough to make saliva rise. They enjoy dinner quietly before Julia breaks it.

"Mom, if for example there is a good man and Julia is also interested in him, can Julia get married?"

Julia hesitated to bring out what had been buried in her heart for almost a month.

Lucy's mother and sister who were enjoying her dinner stopped the feed. Staring at Julia in disbelief.

"You got a deck girlfriend? Kok never told the same sister," look at sister Lucy sharply.

"No brother, this is if …. " Julie was nervous to answer.

"No girlfriend but want to get married. You were the new kid yesterday afternoon, only 24 years old. My sister has not thought about getting married. Look at our lives not so stable. You are not ashamed to marry in a rented house like this. Wait until we have our own house!" sambar Lucy with a high voice.

"Yes sister Lucy also help dong, so that savings to buy a house immediately collected. Don't waste the same garden. All this time Julia kept putting aside money to buy a house!" Julia goes against Lucy's words. His appetite evaporated brought on emotions.

"You don't need to teach me. What if I set aside the money should report to you first!" he pointed at Julia's face

"Sssst already! don't fuss. Shame to hear neighbors. You don't get Cy's emotions easy, just listen to what your sister wants to say!" Mother mediates tension.

"Makanya brother calm down first. Julia was only offered to share the same classmate. Not necessarily getting married in a short time. Julia did not dare to decide for herself, so Julia asked Mom for advice. Because my brother's brother that's why you need to know." Julia tried to set her tone as smooth as possible to dispel Lucy's anger.

"If you don't have a problem Jul. If there is a soul mate, marry. Mother also calm down if you have someone to take care of. 24-year-old is not a child anymore, I'm sure Julia is capable. But who's this candidate?" replied Mother gently.

"So I'll step over him ma'am? What people say later. I don't want Mom if Julia gets married first! I don't want to be the talk of people, like old virgins!"

Lucy's voice shook, disappointed and wounded. His eyes glared at Mom as if he could not believe her answer.

Lucy got up from the chair she didn't spend her dinner. He threw a dish into the sink carelessly. Leaving Julia and Mother in silence was speechless at her behavior.

Julia cupped her hands to her face, regretting it was like expressing an intention that was stored deeply in her heart. Without feeling her tears flowing. Mom rubbed Julia's back. Only the warmth of Mom's hand can give her peace.

"If the man is good and sholeh, Ibu ridho Jul. Mother allowed. Mom's gonna talk to Lucy to soften her heart. I'm old Jul, want to see you guys happy to have a companion alive and have offspring. Just this wish I never expressed because I believe you know what's best for your life." Mom wiped Julia's tears, removed the bumps in her heart.

"Alhamdulillah, Julia just needs permission and Ridho Mom. God willing, this week Julia will give CV to study friend Julia. Isn't faster better." Julia smiled at Mom.

"Yes immediately exchanged CVs, I was curious about the young man who will be introduced to you," Mother stroked Julia's cheek.

Julia spent the dinner reluctantly. Mother cleaned up the leftovers scattered by the action of Sister Lucy throwing dishes carelessly.

Julia breathed a heavy sigh. Imagine sleeping in one room with Lucy alone has made her stomach feel heartburn.

***

Early in the morning after the dawn prayer Lucy was ready to go to work. Julia heard he was packing his things violently. Julia did not dare to face the emotional Lucy. So he huddled around pretending to be asleep until he heard Lucy's motorbike roaring out of the house. Julia opened her eyes.

With a tangled face near her Mother on the terrace, was arranging the ingredients for sale.

"Mom's been talking to Lucy?" ask Julia.

"Not yet son, he left in a hurry. Later that night if his heart condition has improved," Mother is still busy arranging things.

"Hmmm yes ma'am, Julia wants to be ready to go to school after work."

"Don't forget to have breakfast first, son," Mother reminded.

"Yes ma'am, I made some hot tea first. I want breakfast just for breakfast. I'll make it myself."

"All right, I'm going to the stall for a second. Forgetting that sugar is a little. Come in, let me lock the door from the outside."

***

Since Sarah has gone through a new life, Julia becomes a solo fighter. Go to the study on your own, not make friends. It's okay, he won't be lonely because the mothers and fellow students are very kind and friendly.

Julia is sure to soon have many new friends in this community. Because Auntie Tati invited her into a WhatsApp chat group. He said so that he could have a lot of acquaintances and exchange research info.

Not infrequently they hold a rujak party or eat rice kebuli in crowds. Unfortunately Juliw can not follow because they often make events on weekdays.

Today the discussion of the study was presented by Ustadz Arifin about the existence of women after the arrival of Islam. In the era of jahiliyah many men feel disgrace when blessed with girls, so it is not surprising that there are many practices of burying girls shortly after birth. The coming of Islam changed all those bad perceptions. Women's degrees are elevated.

The apostle of Allah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa Salam also often remembers with his words so that Muslims appreciate and glorify women. Among his words:

اِسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا

“I wish to you to do good to the women.” (Emer: 3729)

خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِهِ وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِى

“You guys are the kindest to his wife, and I am the kindest to my wife.” (HR Tirmidhi, declared authentic by Al Albani in “ash-shahihah”: 285)

Before Islam came the Jahiliyah people viewed women as calamities. Islam considers women as a gift of Allah. The presence of women gives men peace of mind and birth. From women will emerge positive energy in the form of love, affection and life motivation.

Men and women become a sacred unit in the frame of the household. Women and men should help each other in creating a comfortable and happy life, educating and guiding the next generation of people. Allah says,

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

“And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives of your own kind, that you may tend and be at ease to him, and made Him among you of love and affection. Verily in that are signs for the people who think.” (QS. Al Rue [30]: 21).

And do not forget that the Prophet was blessed with many daughters, and the Apostle took care of them with great love. One of his favorites was his daughter Fatimah.

Narrated from the friend of Anas bin Malik radhiyallahu ‘anhu, he said that Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda,

مَنْ عَالَ جَارِيَتَيْنِ حَتَّى تَبْلُغَا جَاءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ أَنَا وَهُوَ وَضَمَّ أَصَابِعَهُ

“Whoever protects two daughters to adulthood will come on the day of doomsday with me” (Anas bin Malik said : The Prophet combined his fingers) - (HR Muslim 2631).

The point of this study is not about who is the highest, whether male or female. All gender in the eyes of God is the same depending on his piety. So men should not be arbitrary to women. And women should not be arrogant and arrogant to men, remain in their nature as gentle and nurturing beings.

Masya Allah .…

***

The study is over, the mosque committee is getting ready for the preparation of Friday prayers. Julia saw Aunt Tati tidying up the prayer mat.

"Assalamualaikum Aunty …. " Well, Julia.

"Walaikumsalaam, uh Julia sit here first," he stopped the activity.

"Emmmm .. Julia has asked my permission to ta'aruf. Thank God he has given permission, sorry for a long time to tell Auntie," Julia said heart.

"Alhamdulillah, may Aunt know what obstacles make Julia think long?"

"Julia has an unmarried sister Aunt, I'm worried about stepping over her. But on the one hand, my sister also did not look like getting married. So Julia was confused as to how. But I said he was going to talk to my sister" Julia was worried.

"Ooooh so, no big deal. Hopefully softened your brother's heart in order to receive. Just take her sister to this class, who knows, open the door for a soul mate." The Aunty Tati.

I don't know where the idea of suddenly sliding this sentence from Julia's tongue, "If Aunt's niece was introduced to my sister just how was Tan?" he offered.

The look on Auntie Tati's face turned disappointed.

"Sorry Jul, from the beginning Aunt was interested in your personality. That's why Auntie was strong enough to introduce you to my niece. Even Auntie has had a glimpse of you. If Aunty introduces your sister can be different story. So how about it, if you don't want to, Auntie doesn't force it" said Auntie Tati.

"Julia wants Aunty .. But yes it is, still thinking about sister," Julia answered to give certainty.

"Okay a minute, it's been a long time since he sent me a CV. Even he has asked Aunty you know .. kok your CV has not been sent to him, so no …. " He was busy opening email files on his phone.

"I'm sorry Auntie, so complicated like this," Julia felt guilty.

"It's okay. Here is his CV! aunt sent to your WhatsApp. Read carefully, do not forget to send your CV. Let Aunt tell him." Sounded notification coming in.

"Thank you very much Aunt."

"Jul together, don't forget istikharah. Involve God in all your decisions, God willing you will be guided" he said.

"Okay Auntie, Julia wants to continue working first yes …. " Julia retreats.

"Yes be careful on Jul's path," Aunt Tati embraces Julia as a farewell greeting.

Actually Julia was impatient to read the CV, but he paused to open it. He will read it later after the work and business today is finished so as not to break the concentration.

"May Allah bless my every step."