My Husband's Marriage
#45. Kenzo is trained to be independent
Kenzo is 6 years old.
On Kenzo's first day of school, after a few weeks off from school, Kenzo was still so-so that his knowledge was still directed to be more independent and control his emotions, to read and write, Kenzo was left far behind from his friends.
cring.kring ...
The alarm sounds at 05:30.
Dikta got up early and immediately went to Kenzo's room, intending to build Kenzo's kan.
"Kenzo dear.wake up yuk" Dikta persuaded Kenzo.
mmm...kenzo turned her body, not wanting to get up early
"Ken-zo, ba-ngun yuk, ki-ta ma-u per-gi ke-se-ko-lah, Kenzo wants to go to school" persuaded Dikta slowly while rubbing Kenzo's back.
"Ti-dak ma-u" said Kenzo, throwing a pillow at Dikta.
Did not accept being thrown, Dikta was emotional and immediately hit Kenzo "bandal boy, not polite, well-built and even throw the parents" said Dikta in a loud voice.
Kenzo cries shouting "ti-dak ma-u per-gi, ma-ma ja-hat" Kenzo throws whatever is nearby.
Kenzo's throw on Dikta's head, Dikta getting furious and emotional, Dikta taking the bell, and hitting the dagger's stalk at Kenzo, Kenzo increasingly shouted hysterically "Aaa" the more brutally Kenzo pelted everything nearby, glasses, jars and toys.
Hearing Kenzo's loud screams and Dikta's shouts that chanted "brash kid, stupid fool" Dikta berated Kenzo, Steven woke up from his sleep, and approached the origin of the shouts, it comes from Kenzo's room.
Steven immediately pulled Dikta's hand, because Dikta had shouted and berated Kenzo.
"Where the hell are you, so the mother is impatient, the child himself even in caci maki, you should be more patient and good at persuading, not even angry" Steven scolded Dikta.
"But Kenzo's been brash, bang. Kenzo threw me with a pillow and hit my head, I got angry, if the hard stuff that Kenzo threw, might have broken my head" said Dikta in self-defense.
"You're thrown because, you're always yelling and impatient to persuade Kenzo" Steven told Dikta.
"I had persuaded him slowly and repeatedly, but Kenzo threw a pillow at me" Dikta still insisted on defending himself.
"Have it, you are at least arguably, never willing to admit his mistakes, always feel right, you as a mother should be more patient and understand the feelings of her child, not vice versa, being an enemy to Kenzo" Steven scolded Dikta.
Dikta was just silent, maybe now realize his mistake, but tomorrow, Dikta had forgotten and impatient in persuading Kenzo.
Steven tried to persuade Kenzo.
"Kenzo, your most handsome son, Kenzo's a smart boy right?, Kenzo's a dear papa right?, Kenzo wants no school?" asked Steven slowly and gently, before Steven first hugged and rubbed Kenzo's back, so that Kenzo could be calmer.
Kenzo's calmer "Kenzo's a smart kid, right?" asked Steven gently.
Kenzo mustache, "Kenzo wants to go to school, right?", Kenzo also beards.
"Before Kenzo goes to school, take a shower?" steven asked gently and invited Steven to the bathroom.
Kenzo according to what Steven told him.
"Kenzo can shower himself?" Steven reminds Kenzo to bathe himself, because Steven once taught Kenzo to bathe himself.
Kenzo took a bath in accordance with what Steven had taught.
"Kenzo finished taking a shower?" tanya Steven tested Kenzo's memory.
"Han-duk" said Kenzo smiling.
"right, it turns out Kenzo's papa son, pin-tar" said Steven praising Kenzo by giving his thumbs up while smiling and hugging Kenzo tightly.
"After finishing the towel, Kenzo put on the school shirt, this shirt is yes" Steven put Kenzo's school uniform on the bed, and directed Kenzo to take a bath, after taking a bath, pick up and put on Kenzo's bed.
Because mental retardation is remembered because of habit, meaning Steven used to make Kenzo remember the clothes provided on the bed in use after bathing.
For example, if Steven told Kenzo to take an afternoon bath, Steven first put his pajamas on the bed, so that after bathing Kenzo could immediately put it on. Kenzo can be self-sufficient.
Likewise with eating and wearing Jan school shoes, directed and taught Steven painstakingly, when Kenzo managed to do Steven's orders, not forgetting Steven praising, hugging and giving a thumbs up to Kenzo, as Kenzo managed to do so, to make Kenzo more excited and more motivated to always do more things.
Because Kenzo suffers from mental retardation, from the age of 3 years, Kenzo has been schooled, intending that Kenzo can blend in with the outside world, because if kenzo invited to the Kenzo mall feel panic, because if Kenzo, always crying and screaming.
After school, at first Kenzo often uncontrolled and unruly, running around, Kenzo also want to beat his friend, if his friend does not want to share toys.
But after a long time and getting used to school, Kenzo is a little quieter, directable and manageable, as long as we are in a soft voice, if we get angry and by commanding, Kenzo will panic even more, yelling and banging himself, if Kenzo is not in the mood, Kenzo cannot be overcome or ordered.
Dikta and Steven had to send Kenzo to school, so that Kenzo could be better, Dikta was often mentally impatient in persuading Kenzo, willing to hit and shout at Kenzo, Dikta said, kenzo got angry and shouted.
Every morning Kenzo was able to wake up alone without waking up, Kenzo routinely woke up at 05:30, after waking up Kenzo would shower himself and brush his own teeth, initially Kenzo was difficult to arrange to wake up early, Kenzo was not prepared to wake up, but Steven patiently and painstakingly persuades and seduces Kenzo, who wants to take a bath himself.
As long as the toiletries, soap and towels are put in place, Kenzo can remember them, as well as his school clothes, Steven always puts the school clothes Kenzo will wear on the bed. That way is always familiar to Steven, so that Steven gets used to it.
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Kenzo at school
🎶 My hat is round,
round my hat,
if not round
not my hat.
leddum..
leddum..🎶
Kenzo so eagerly sings it, so,
just plainly memorized la.la.la.actually Kenzo sings her,
because Dikta and Steven never taught the song to kenzo.
Kenzo sings while screaming and jumping, because encouraged and praised Kenzo into over acting, more excited again singing, and more,
teacher Novi praises Kenzo, Kenzo feels very happy, praise sometimes makes Kenzo can be calmer.
