ABIDA UFAIRAH'S
TWO FAMILIES MEETING
today is the day of the 2nd meeting of the family.
Sir. Bagas has conveyed the wishes of sir. Darga who will visit tonight and approved by his 3 children and his wife, thus pak.bagas asked avar today there is no where.
Ummi and abida are in the kitchen preparing a meal for tonight.
Abime .. Call umi
Umi, yes,
How old are you now, son?
22 Years old, what's wrong?
Umi thinks your age is ripe to marry abida.
Abida suddenly widened his eyes that were shocked to hear the words of his umi, uuum umi seems like abida is not ready yet umi, abida also just graduated, abida still wants a career and advance. BUtik abida umi, abida also still has private dependents also still gajar umi, let alone some of the akhwat that abida teach now is his spirit in depositing hadith memorization and surah surah short umi, abida is unlikely to leave them umi, she is afraid that after her husband's marriage abida will limit the movement of abida umi
After expressing the contents of abida's heart, Umi just smiled while rubbing the cheek of her daughter.
Abida does not want your husband to limit your steps after marriage, especially what you do is a positive thing, indeed we as wives should after marriage our main focus is our husbands as already explained that
In Islam women have many privileges. A woman is greatly honored for her role in life.
When a woman has become a wife, she has rights and duties towards her husband. In the Qur'an and the hadith are explained, a wife has a responsibility to fulfill the rights of a husband.
A married woman, then her paradise moved to her husband. He will be heaven for his children.
If a wife prays five times, fasts in the month of Ramadan, keeps *********** and obeys her husband, then she will enter the paradise of her Lord,” thus hadeeth Shalallaahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam (s.fort ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ) narrated by Imam Ahmad.
Even in the other hadith mentioned, “If I may ask someone to bow down to someone else, of course I will have a wife to bow down to her husband.” (CHR. Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah). Prophet Shallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam, “No obedience to beings in matters of worship to Khalik (The Creator).” (CHR. Ahmadis).
The Shari'a of Islam has regulated the right of the husband to the wife by obeying her (as long as she is not out of the Shari'a and the law of Allah). The wife must obey the husband in all things that do not smell bad, trying to meet all his needs so as to make the husband free to him.
Like a female activist where she has been imprisoned by the Western campaign about “pairelty”, this hadith is definitely troubling. Because, for him, obedience to the husband will only make it “sub-ordination” men.
Only those who willingly and ridho enforce the command of Allah Subhanahu Wata’ala, whose bosom is filled with the blessings of Faith and Islam alone are able to obey the orders of her husband.
He is willing to stay away from something, if the husband forbids it. She breastfed if her husband advised her. Even he willingly does not accept male guests –well distant relatives though– when the husband is traveling or is outside the house.
Allah's Apostle Shalallaahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam ( ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ⁇ ) said, “Know that you have rights over your wives and your wives have rights over you too. As for your right to your wife is not to allow anyone you hate to enter your home.” (CHR. Tirmidhi)
The Obedient Wife
Instead, Islam has given a woman full rights over her husband, in which Islam commands her to respect his wife, fulfill her rights and create a life worthy of him so that his wife is obedient and in love with him.
The obligation to keep the husband who has been assigned by Islam to the wife is none other than the responsibility of the husband is so great, because the husband is the leader in his household and he is responsible for what he is responsible for. In addition, because the husband is strongly emphasized to have a far-sighted and insightful view, so that the husband can know things that are not known to the wife based on his experience and expertise in a particular field.
A wise wife is one who obeys her husband, carries out his orders, and listens and respects his opinions and counsel with care. If she sees that in her husband's opinion there is a mistake then she seeks to open a dialogue with her husband, then to mention the mistake gently and humbly. A calm and gentle attitude like magic that can soften a person's heart.
Obedience to the husband may be burdensome to a wife. How much the wife prepares herself to obey her husband and to be sincere in carrying it out then that is the reward she will get, because as the salaf scholars say, “That reason is directly proportional to the charity that a person does.” No doubt that the wife can reap many rewards other than obedience to the husband such as prayer, fasting, zakat, hajj and others, but the reward she gets is not perfect if she does not get the reward in obeying her husband, pleasing her heart and not doing anything she dislikes.
We or You may find the seeds of pride begin to enter Your wife, then when it should be Your breastplate and then advise her wholeheartedly.
Like a company, marriage will also experience a serious threat of disputes and disputes between individuals in it.
The husband is the protector of the family according to the commandment of God to him, so he is responsible for this. For, family is the smallest government, and husband is “rajanya”, so he must be obeyed.
Allah Ta’ala has said;
لرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاء بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّهُ وَاللاَّتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيّاً كَبِيراً
“Males (husbands) are protectors for women (wives), because God has overestimated some of them (men) over others (women), because God has overestimated some of them, and because they (men) have given a living from his property.” (QS. An-Nisaa` [4] :34)
Boundaries of obedience
The obligation of the wife to obey her husband is not obedience without restrictions, but the obedience of a wife who is praying for a good and righteous husband, a husband who believes in his personality and sincerity and is believed to be good in his actions.
In a hadith mentioned, “There is no obedience in doing
obedience is but obedience is on good things.” (CHR. Al-Bukhari, Muslim and Abu Daud).
The obedience of this wife must be accompanied by the attitude of a husband who likes to consult and ask for input from his wife so as to strengthen the inner bonds in the family.
Consultation between husband and wife on all matters related to family affairs is a must, even things that must be done for many people. No advisor is more reliable than a sincere wife and has many brilliant ideas for her husband. In many narrations it is mentioned that the Prophet Shallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam likes to consult with his wives and take their opinions in some important matters.
The Prophet Shallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam once consulted his wife, Umm Salamah on a very important condition when the shahhabat were reluctant to slaughter camels and shave their hair. At that time Umm Salamah asked the Prophet Shallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam to do it first and not speak to anyone. For the sake of seeing that, the shahabat also do it. What Umm Salamah's opinion is brilliant!
Finally, let's make the right Islam. True in the sense that Allah and His Messenger teach. Otherwise, we will continue to adapt this religion to unjust teachings.
Today many people are struggling with the slogans of gender equality and feminism. Isme-ism or this kind of understanding is only the solution of Western society to get out of a crisis of injustice that is happening to them, not to Muslim women. It has been proven that many, such understandings, have kept Muslim women away from monotheism.
Islam and Allah Subhanahu Wa ta’ala have arranged in such a way about the rights of spouses, according to the portion. If there is still suspicion as if all the provisions of Allah Subhanahu Wa ta’ala is still less proportional, just as we consider our brains are smarter than the decrees of Allah Subhanahu Wa ta’ala. As a result, let's follow the Qur`an and hadith in carrying out this wedding ark, so that we can really feel the family that is sadinah mawaddah wa rahmah. Aamiins.
