Love Me Mas
PART 13'S
Banyu Moto's
I sobbed. One by one my tears fell into my lap. God, why did he come to fill my family? I should be happy with Mas Hasan, but he will replace me.
I was so weak I couldn't cover my thump. I was so powerless that I couldn't take my breath away. I can what? Was it not I who asked him to come so that Mas Hasan could be happy? because I'm no longer the perfect woman.
I know now, the advice is just satire. I can't get revenge on my honey, because I'm the one who asked for it. I'll do anything for Mas Hasan's happiness.
"Dik Maii" my lover called my name, still as before with a pushy look, with such a warm attitude. But he's not alone. He came with Xan Xan . Xan Xan who will be the perfecter of our family, Xan Xan who is hungry for love and will soon be overflowing with his attention indefinitely. Xan Xan my best friend, the dead man I helped. Until I lost my baby, now he completely took away my happiness.
I should have also directed my eyes to see the happy light on Xan Xan's face that came with him. But I couldn't. I'm not in power. My grief and my nest reign. I sighed. Should I just get here?
He has chosen it, my love is nothing. Living life with Xan Xan will make her happy.
The sacred promise, the sacred speech of the day, no longer meant anything. Now I am a nobody, I will continue to serve Mas Hasan but love and affection will flow to Xan Xan.
"Dik Maii" my lover repeated his call, I slowly raised my face, His eyes hold a million memories, I still remember very well that night, where we first shook hands, the do'a that we both promised, the hope that we all have is meaningless. I must be strong, I must be strong, be a woman who can "mikul duwur mendem yeru".
I've prepared a room for the two of them, to mix love, to take love. I watched my boyfriend hold his hand. The sighs and sighs coming from the room left me sprawled. I promise tonight I cannot lose, I will rest in worship until dawn.
"Ndukkk cah ayu" mother's voice shrill in my ear. I was wide-eyed, my breath was not so bad, my skull was wet with tears. I hugged my mother, I'm grateful this was just a dream. Maybe this was the answer to my last night's prayer. I can't possibly afford to be polygamous.
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"Mas already had an answer to Mai's question yesterday"
"Don't you know the answer?" Mas Hasan looked at me deeply, both of my hands held tightly.
"If I was the one who had the accident that night, if Mas is imperfect, if Mas is flawed, would you also be suing me, brother..? Polygamy is not easy,"
"Mas, even if it is not an easy matter Mai sincerely, in the Qur'an is also allowed"
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَىٰ فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا
“And if you fear that you will not be able to be fair to (rights) orphaned women (when you marry her), then marry the women (other) you like: two, three, or four. Then if you are afraid that you will not be able to be fair, then (here) only one, or the slaves that you have. That way it is closer to not doing wrongdoing.” [An-Nisaa’/4: 3]
"What if you can't be fair?
قيود إباحة التعدد :اشترطت الشريعة لإباحة التعدد شرطين جوهريين هما:1 - توفير العدل بين الزوجات: أي العدل الذي يستطيعه الإنسان، ويقدر عليه، وهو التسوية بين الزوجات في النواحي المادية من نفقة وحسن معاشرة ومبيت، لقوله تعالى: {فإن خفتم ألا تعدلوا فواحدة، أو ما ملكت أيمانكم، ذلك أدنى ألا تعولوا} [النساء:3/4] فإنه تعالى أمر بالاقتصار على واحدة إذا خاف الإنسان الجور ومجافاة العدل بين الزوجات.وليس المراد بالعدل ـ كما بان في أحكام الزواج الصحيح ـ هو التسوية في العاطفة والمحبة والميل القلبي، فهوغير مراد؛ لأنه غير مستطاع ولا مقدور لأحد، والشرع إنما يكلف بما هو مقدور للإنسان، فلا تكليف بالأمور الجبلِّية الفطرية التي لا تخضع للإرادة مثل الحب والبغض.ولكن خشية سيطرة الحب على القلب أمر متوقع ،لذا حذر منه الشرع في الآية الكريمة: {ولن تستطيعوا أن تعدلوا بين النساء، ولو حرصتم، فلا تميلوا كل الميل، فتذروها كالمعلقة} [النساء:129/4] وهو كله لتأكيد شرط العدل، وعدم الوقوع في جور النساء، بترك الواحدة كالمعلقة، فلا هي زوجة تتمتع بحقوق الزوجية، ولا هي مطلقة. والعاقل: من قدَّر الأمور قبل وقوعها، وحسب للاحتمالات والظروف حسابها، والآية تنبيه على خطر البواعث والعواطف الداخلية، وليست كما زعم بعضهم لتقرير أن العدل غير مستطاع، فلا يجوز التعدد، لاستحالة تحقق شرط إباحته.2 - القدرة على الإنفاق: لا يحل شرعاً الإقدام على الزواج، سواء من واحدة أو من أكثر إلا بتوافر القدرة على مؤن الزواج وتكاليفه، والاستمرار في أداء النفقة الواجبة للزوجة على الزوج، لقوله صلّى الله عليه وسلم : «يا معشر الشباب، من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج...» والباءة: مؤنة النكاح.
PROVISIONS THAT ALLOW THE HUSBAND TO POLYGAMY.
Sharia allows polygamous husbands when they meet two conditions :
Can give a SENSE of FAIRness among his wives.
In the sense of the ability to do justice in material things such as giving a living, being able to get along with them well and to drive them equally, Allah Ta’ala said :
“Then if you are afraid that you will not be able to be fair, then (here) only one, or the slaves that you have. That way it is closer to not doing wrongdoing.” (QS. 4:3)
In this verse, God commands one wife to be sufficient if one fears not being able to do justice among his wives.
And not what is meant by fair here is the same in terms of sharing feelings, affection, love and inclination of the heart, is not it...!! Because that certainly will not be able to be done by anyone while sharia will not apply the law beyond the limits that are enabled by someone then he is not required to undergo things that are beyond the nature of the ability to subject to desires such as love and hate only the worries of being bound by love (in one of the other wives) can become a reality, making the wife dependent, there is no fulfillment of his rights and he is also not stuck from the grip of the power of the husband.
Allah says “And you will never be able to be fair among wives (you), even though you are eager to do so, therefore, do not be too inclined (to those you love), so you let others be stuck.” (QS. 4:129)
This verse as an affirmation of the legal provisions of polygamy so as not to make mendzalimi women so as to make their fate cluttered and reasonable people are those who are able to master things before being hit by problems because of it.
Able to give A LIVING to his wives.
Sharia does not allow a person to enter the realm of marriage whether married only one wife or more unless he is able to meet the costs and demands in a household, or not, able to fulfill the rights that a wife should get over her husband based on the word of the prophet :“Wahai kawula muda, whoever can afford from you for the cost then marry” referred cost is the cost needed in marriage and household. [Al - Fiqh al - Islaam IX/160 ].
I couldn't help but cry, My tears were spilling, I hugged my husband tightly, I couldn't afford to lose him but I wanted him to be happy.
