Towards the Way of Marriage

The Advanced Ceremony 2

At this stage the mother of the bride covers both arms of the bride with a syringe. After that the two brides walked slowly towards the bride's seat, followed by both parents.

" Next the ceremony of pangkon, scales or tenem jero. " Say the host

After the dregs in the pelaminan, the grill ceremony continues with the two brides standing side by side in a position to turn to the rainbow or face the invited guests. Witnessed by the mother of the bride, the father of the bride sat both brides to the bridal seat while holding and patting the shoulders of the two. This procession means that the bride and groom have been "planted" to become an independent couple.

The kacar ceremony in Javanese traditional marriage symbolizes that the husband is obliged and responsible to provide a living to the wife. Usually, kacar kucur which is part of this grill procession in the form of :

Keba or woven mat pockets containing yellow rice, beans, soybeans, coins and telon flowers such as roses, jasmine and memories to the bride. This is the symbol of the husband who serves as a living for the family and as a symbol of handing over the results of his hard work to the wife.

The way of this kacar kucur ceremony is the groom pouring keba contents into the woman's lap and received with a sindur cloth. It is arranged in such a way that the contents of the keba do not run out at all and no items are scattered.

Ceremony of Denang or Dhahar Kalimah

Ceremony in Javanese traditional marriage means symbolizing harmony between husband and wife. In this ceremony the two newlyweds feed each other rice.

At this homecoming ceremony the groom makes three fists of yellow rice and is placed on a plate held by the bride. And witnessed by the groom, the bride ate one fist of rice. Then the groom gives a glass of water to the bride. This procession illustrates the harmony of husband and wife will bring happiness in the family.

The Bubah Kawahbatau Ngunjuk Rujak Degan Ceremony

After homecoming, the procession in Javanese traditional marriage is continued with the ngunjuk rujak ceremony which means drinking rujak degan. At this ceremony both the bride and the bride's parents taste rujak degan, a drink made from young coconut shavings mixed with brown sugar, so it tastes sweet and fresh. This procession has the meaning of harmony and togetherness. That everything sweet is not enjoyed alone, but must be shared with all family members.

The next procession of the pottery in Javanese traditional marriage is the mapag besan or besan martuwi ceremony or pitik besan ceremony. Mapag besan means to pick up besan. This procession is done because the parents of the groom are not allowed to be present during the grill procession until the ngunjuk rujak ceremony degan.

The Sungkeman or Pangabekten Ceremony

The last procession in the grill is the sungkeman. Sungkeman is done as a form that the two brides will obey and serve their parents. In this procession, the bride and groom prostrate themselves to both parents to ask for their blessing and apologize for all their prayers and mistakes. Both brides ask for prayers and blessings to parents to be a happy family.

After the grill event is finished then the two brides carry out the reception.

"Allhambehind the ceremony is over, more or less we apologize. I end wassalamu'alaikum warohmatulohi wabarakatuh. " Say the host

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In the afternoon, the event was finally over and Anin wanted to change clothes but was already a wife.

"It's really awkward. Yeah, it's more than later in angry with mom. "

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