Not the First Love

Hijra (1)

It has been a month after the breakup of Boy and Sinta. It is now the month of Ramadan in which all Muslims carry out their duties.

One day Sinta school as usual held a lightning boarding every ramadan came. Sinta is actually lazy especially because he is fasting.

This is where Sinta is now in one classroom with other female friends (especially women) because women and men are separated .

Sinta and her other friends were listening to her ustazah lecture about her beauty in the holy month of Ramadan but it was a very boring thing for Sinta.

"Okay sister the lecture session is over and now goes into the question session." said one ustazah.

"And you want to ask the big brother who wants to answer, or you who is the big brother who answers?" continued again.

"We are the brother who answers." they answered simultaneously as well as Sinta he really likes to ask and answer.

"Well that was your choice and now someone wants to ask? please raise your hand." replied the ustazah.

"Sister!"one of the students.

"Yes, please stand up and mention the question."

"The Assalamualaikum Wr Wb .. Earlier I wanted to ask if his questions were permissible outside of our material."sanya.

"Waalaikumsalam Wr W.. It's okay as long as the question is still included in the Islamic law." while smiling sweetly.

"My question is can we idolize non-Muslim artists?"

"Good question, okay before proceeding to the next question brother will answer the question of our sister.." with a smile.

"Can we idolize non-Muslim artists? the answer is permissible but admire it only limited to awe and do not follow the style of the artist.

We may have admired others. It may be an artist and a top figure or someone else with his characteristics, good looks, beauty or special skills that make you feel amazed at him so that you make yourself a fan.

This admiration will sometimes indirectly make yourself always want to follow his lifestyle even always want to know his daily activities.

Idolizing someone usually we will not dispute about the belief in his because we are only amazed by all the advantages he has physically or his abilities alone.

In fact, sometimes we may also pray for all the good for the idol who even though in the law praying for non-Muslims is only allowed with the intention that the person (non-Muslim) get guidance.

But as a Muslim, have we ever questioned the law idolizing non-Muslims who have always been flattered and awaited by his presence?

According to Tafsir Ar-Razi (Mafatih Al-Ghaib), pp. 4/168 which says :

“Be aware that Muslim friendship with infidels is of three types:

First, he willingly consented to his disbelief and befriended him on the basis of his disbelief. It is forbidden because whoever does that then he justifies that religion. Allowing unbelief is kufr. Then it is impossible that he will remain a Muslim with this kind of behavior.

 Second, associate well with the infidels on the basis of their zhahir. It's not banned.

Third, it is midway between the two previous points that is to befriend the infidel in the sense of leaning, helping, helping, showing them sometimes because of kinship or because they like the belief that their religion is batil (perverted).

This attitude does not result in kufr, but it is forbidden. Because being friends with this understanding can result in taking kindly to his path and being willing to his religion. It will get a Muslim out of Islam.

Allah SWT has reminded him of this in QS Ali Imron 3:28 ‘Whosoever does so, surely he is free from the help of Allah’”.

Thus, the law idolizing non-Muslims is divided into three based on his golongannya :

Be able

If only limited to liking it because of its intelligence, expertise, beauty or good looks, or just like it outwardly without regard to the religion in it.

Potentious

When admiring everything that is in the person physically but does not justify or do not recognize the religion he espoused (other than Islam) so as not to bring himself into the group of people heathens.

Illicit

When admiring and idolizing the person to become a fanatical fan who justifies all that is in the idol, the idol, follow and like everything the idol does and also participate in justifying or acknowledging the religion that has been adopted (other than Islam) so as to make yourself included in the class of infidels.

Of the three divisions of the law idolizing non-Muslims above is expected as a Muslim we can limit ourselves not to be blind in idolizing someone so that we do not belong to the infidels because it has justified all what the idol does even though what he does includes despicable deeds.

How can you understand brother?" Obviously the ustazah.

"Sister!"answer them simultaneously.

"Well, who wants to ask?" ask the ustazah.

"I'm brother!" exclaiming a student.

"Yes please."

"Assalamualaikum wr.. how do we become filial children to both parents?"

"Well will you answer, Who are we born into this world? It must be thanks to our parents. We can grow to adulthood today thanks to whom? probably thanks to parents. If we are a child who is often taught by parents about doing good, of course, surely the most important person to prioritize in practicing kindness is to both of them, yes they are our father and mother.

If we disobey parents then surely we will know the adzab that will be given. In the teachings of Islam, filial piety to parents is the main practice. In living in this world, surely everyone wants to be a successful person, in the world and in the hereafter.

Here are 10 simple ways to devote to parents:

Take care of every word to both of them. Always speak meekly when speaking with both and keep away from saying in high tones, especially with harsh words. To the boss of the workplace or the leader only speaks with courtesy, should when talking to parents more polite.

Helps to Lighten Homework.

Who knows what their parents do at home? For those who do not know, starting from the affairs of home hygiene, home neatness, stomach affairs, and others as if mentioned certainly many. Moreover, a mother who almost every day his daily duties are at home. If we ask our mother about her activities at home she will be confused to answer it. Why confused? Because the work at home is so much. Will my mother complain about her work? Of course not, but he would be very happy if his son would help in completing his homework.

Easy to Ask to Help Parents.

If the parents command something to us, which is easy to do by us, then do not refuse or delay the command if indeed we do not have problems or other affairs. If the parents command something to us, which is easy to do by us, then do not refuse or delay the command if indeed we do not have problems or other affairs.

When we were kids, we asked our parents anything (as long as it's good for us) they wouldn't just reject it. Now we who have become adults when parents ask for something or ask for help still want to refuse?

Always Be Patient and Courteous.

Not only are we gentle in our words, but our behavior must also be polite to them. For example, to answer greetings to them when they come home from somewhere, to kiss their hands if they want to go somewhere and others. Stay away from outrageous and impudent attitudes towards both of them.

Increase Interaction with Parents.

If we need friends to chat then they also need friends to chat. Their best friends when chatting are their children. Take the time for them to talk ria, ask about the situation, and others.

Not having to look him in the face directly, via phone is also enough for them. By hearing your voice far away, they're happy enough.

Keeping Silaturrahmi with Parents When Already Mature.

With your arrival to the parents' house, whenever and wherever it is a gift that is best for them, especially by bringing success and achievement of course the pleasure of parents will increase. When you start growing up, never leave your parents. They will feel a very longing if they do not meet their children for a long time.

Praying For Them At Every Worship.

Have we prayed for our parents today? If not, pray for those who pray every night when we are asleep on the bed.

Not wasting Parents' Hard Work.

But what power there are still many children who want to skip school, waste money, lazy to learn, and so forth. It is appropriate as a child not to waste it all just like that. Parents will be happy if their efforts in making a living are not in vain thanks to your achievements and success. We have often met children who do not appreciate the struggles of their parents in making a living and supporting their children, sending school, giving food and clothing.

Give The Best Gift to Them.

Our parents have given us much, now what we can give them, look for the best for them. Giving gifts can be various, can be in the form of goods can also be in the form of a formless, for example achievement or success when an adult. The gift does not have to be expensive or difficult, enough parents are proud of you so it is a gift.

Being Patient in Caring for Parents.

This is triggered by a health condition that begins to be not prime, sometimes the more vulnerable a person then he will become more sensitive and irritable. In these times we must respond patiently and strive to restrain ourselves. Like our parents who were patient in raising us when we were children, they are patient in facing the stubbornness of their children.

By hearing and seeing it directly we can think that our parents are getting older and older, they will return to a time where it will be fussy again, like a child.

Perhaps from this all let us not forget their merits in living us, encouraging us while struggling, praying for us every night, and the most important thing is that there is no way we can live in this world without both of them, father and mother.