My husband is not Mature
Survive or surrender?
After, the departure of her father-in-law Amira chose to shift her mind.
Suddenly, Angga caught up with the room.
"No need to be angry deck, Mama promised in two months will return the money, the house already has a name, the money will be returned to us.! " said Angga relaxed.
"Sorry bang, maybe you can easily believe, but adek ngak, since the beginning of marriage until 5 years of marriage there has not been a single parent's promise kept. "
"If it may be okay to explain, parents brother promised to love money to go on honeymoon..the reality is NOL.., parents brother promised to give a month, in fact only paid once, in fact only paid once, that was the interval of a day to be picked up again the money, "
"Adek doesn't believe in your parents! "
"If indeed the house has been fixed must have been purchased, ngak may also tell brother to pawn SK again,"
" Just calm down! "
"This is his home in 2 months God willing, practice,! angga
"Good, !"
"Aabang always acts to prioritize parents, brother's happiness, Amira does not bother to worry but why should always sacrifice us?? "
"Abang says, when the money runs out, be patient, be patient, have a deck, too,! "
"Adek can also be patient, if indeed Allah loves his provision as such, but the problem is brother who makes the situation less.! "
"They are the family of the elder brother, the younger brother, who else would they ask for help if not the same brother? "
"Just brother, if you can easily make a decision without considering us, you can also make a decision.
" Well, if that's a bad decision! "answer Angga with a face that begins to thicken.
" Well, wait, for two months we don't need to be in touch, ! "
"Good,! " answer Angga quickly.
"Yes, God, why is the response so fast without thinking about the feelings of Amira, God? "
After a long time of self-styling,
Amira chooses to go and take Zyan out.
"Where are we going Ummi? "
"You want to pray, Zyan?
" We pray magrib only, in the new market mosque, "
"Later rame tu, many brothers and sisters TPA, Zyan can get new friends".
" Mau mi. "
Amira too, changed Zyan's clothes with a black robe equipped with a soft cream-colored vest and peci embroidered the name "ZYAN."
"Well, the handsome son of Ummi.....! "?was?
" Yuk baby,! "
"Ready Ummi!...dada...papa.." replied Zyan on the bike,
After the completion of the prayer, Amira did not go home immediately.
"Where else are we going Ummi"? " ask Zyan
"Jalan-jalan just baby, Zyan want a big round bread and delicious coffee ngak? "
"You want Ummi, but Zyan wants to eat there! "
"Can" said Amira while increasing the speed of the motor.
After selecting a few menus, Amira sat opposite Zyan.
"Dear Zyan, Ummi want to ask? "
"If for example, we stay separated from papa Zyan sadly no? " Amira asked while looking at Zyan's bead.
"No, why Ummi,?
" Do we want to stay in the village? "
"And Paapa lives here? "
"Hmmm, yes, Ummi just asked, do we not know, if suddenly God made a situation that must be like that, sad ngak Zyan? "
"No Ummi, Zyan is not sad to be separated from papa, Zyan is sad to be separated from Ummi...,"
"If his father's job is angry! "
"We're staying, papa, Ummi? 'asked plain Zyan
" O Allah, forgive me for asking this ! "brain of Amira in the heart.
" I don't feel like Zyan has finished off a piece of coffee-flavored bread.
" Umm...., photoin Zyan in this cafe ya ummi, the wall picture is nice Zyan likes, can ya Ummi! "ask Zyan while setting the style.
" Okay baby, 1...2...3.., action! " said Amira took some photos of Zyan.
After being satisfied to see the results, Amira invites Zyan to go home.
"Aayuuk Ummi,"
" Zyan want a letter about the Horse or about the elephant, or about the time of the dhuha? " ask Amira.
"Zyan wants a letter about the Ummi War Horse, a letter from Al A'diyat..! "
..."Bismilbornrahmanirrahim...,...
...Wal'aadiyaati dabbha, falmuriyaati khadha...
...... .......
...Sadakallahulla.......
"Allhamdulilah.. smart child Ummi, the more fluent rote.. " Amira's words motivate Zyan.
Not long after, they arrived home.
"Father. pa. a....! " shouted Zyan so down from the top of the bike.
"So Zyan ate some good bread, didn't Zyan love papa..! "
"sad papa that is! " zyan ledek.
"Mmmm, comborocoi......, "
"Where to papa! "Chap Angga while stroking his distended stomach while dancing.
" Ihhhhhh, papa round in the middle of it, so eat out do not sleep, this is not...! "toward Zyan.
Amira also let Zyan with her papa.
Since the arrival of her parents-in-law, the relationship between Angga and Amira only runs formality.
"Nasi has cooked bang, want to be taken or what? " ask Amira though inwardly still disappointed.
"Ambilin deck, bring it here..! " the Proposition of Angga.
"O Allah, why does Amira have a husband who, if he is well done, will be quiet, will not have the initiative to solve the problem and surrender, O Allah, ...! " Murm Amira, while twitching her head
"Did Amira ask someone who understands this yes, is it okay to ask for divorce if the husband is not an adult, ? "
"Oh yes, Amira has participated in parenting studies, try asking Amira the same ustdzah first.! "
Amira was busy looking for contacts in her phone.
"Alhamdulillah be! " said Amira while typing a message.
"Assalamu'alaikum ustdzah, introduce this Ummi Zyan who has participated in parenting studies, previously Ummi prayed hopefully in good health.
" Permission to ask ustadzah, Ummi has been married for almost 5 years, Ummi, and from the beginning of the marriage, Ummi's husband and his family had lied by pawning SK for the benefit of his family in terms of the nature is not urgent just for personal pleasure.
"That's a problem for Ummi, the salary of Ummi's husband per month received to be very little than should even often be insufficient and should be covered with the same Ummi family."
" Every project, the family-in-law always comes and the husband prioritizes even though for us it is still lacking, and recently Husband Ummi mortgaged again his SK for the benefit of his sister entered the force, and,
"As a wife, Ummi was already reminded but ignored and this pawn went on with an additional 10 years bringing the total to 15 more years, he said,
" After Ummi count, it will only be paid off if it is not repeated again.when the Ummi child finishes High School and is now 3.5 .
"...the question Ummi, sin if Ummi wants to ask for divorce from her husband, ? because he is not wise in priorities and often lacks in terms of living due to his choices? "
"....and another ustadzah, Ummi's husband, was also unwise and difficult to take advice, and behaved according to our attitude towards him "he is good, if we are good, and if we are good, he will be more angry if we are angry" in this case, Ummi felt tired especially he also did not hesitate to rebuke Ummi in front of Ummi's father and mother, Ummi,
"Please enlighten her, ustdzah" wrote Amira at length at the end of her message.
After sending a message Amira did the usual activities.
An hour later.
"God my message is answered! " said Amira pleased
"We came down concerned about what happened to Ummi, in this case the first step of Ummi to maintain the household is correct, by consulting the parties who have knowledge, in this case, understanding and feeling able to provide solutions. "
"Based on what Ummi tells us, we can give advice that women can ask for divorce if the reasons are preferred sar'i, not for personal satisfaction.
" The following for clarity Ummi can read the PDF file that you send about some opinions of scholars related to it.
"Whatever causes women not to smell the smell of heaven is asking for divorce without any reason sar'i, for example because it likes other men, he said, because career satisfaction is essentially without any elements in marriage that are written as in the marriage trial, such as less living, left, bad husband and so on.
" In this case, Ummi mentioned often lack of monthly money, but Ummi's husband is insensitive and still prioritizes his family, "
"In this case Ummi, just ask for a divorce and free from the category of women who are forbidden to smell heaven,
"However, if Ummi was able to be patient and pray it would be much better,.
" My advice, the choice of divorce is the last option, if it can still be corrected be patient, pray for Ummi's husband, the affairs of God's provision that Arrange, if you can still be patient, pray for Ummi's husband, the affairs of God's provision,
"Although surviving with an immature man will be difficult, because actually getting married is not the readiness of age but the steadiness of science, maturity of attitude, and maturity seen from the way of attitude, as well as the way of attitude,
" That's what you can suggest Ummi,
"Survive or surrender, God? "
"God, what is best for Amira?
