Love Letter 2000

A Few Tips for Living Adolescence (Skip Only)

Living life as a teenager can be difficult, especially with the hormonal turmoil that occurs in your body. However, this does not necessarily mean that you cannot enjoy your teenage years. If you want to enjoy the exciting teenage years, there are many things you can do (both big and small) to make a big difference in your life!

Understand that there is no one specific way to become a “teen”, and there is no sure way to enjoy adolescence. Everyone is different, especially in the teenage years. Remember that there is no “ uncertain” way to become a teenager, except your own way.

Some teens prefer to spend time with friends, while others prefer to study and work. There are some teenagers who tend to be quiet, and some who talk more and do not hesitate to stand out more than others.

The wrong thing if you say that there is one way (especially the most appropriate way) to enjoy adolescence. Keep in mind that this article is just a guide and all the steps listed should not be followed.What you find fun may be viewed differently by others, and that is not a problem. Some things are generally liked by teenagers, but certainly not all. Just because you're growing up and turning 13, things don't change when you wake up.

Avoid expectations reflected by the media, both good and bad. Adolescent life is not always easier or more difficult than other phases of life. Although adolescence is a time of great change, this does not necessarily mean that adolescence is the most difficult time in your life.

If you feel overwhelmed and worried that this new phase of life will be filled with drama, remember that in reality, this is just another phase of your life. In the end, you'll get through it, just like when you used to make it through your childhood.

Keep in mind that the media often display inappropriate imagery of teenagers. Teenagers and their lives are often featured in television shows, films, and literary works in a narrow way. Therefore, be careful not to make assumptions about teenagers based on what is shown on television channels, MTV, films, etc, and soap operas like “Yang Still Under the Age” or “Kan Jalanan”.

Such shows or movies are usually just fictitious stories that dramatize aspects of your Junior High School life and may not match the reality you are facing. Also, beware not to compare yourself to other people or the teenage drama/synetron cast.

Usually, the cast is around 20 years old (even 30 years old), does not reflect the right teenage model, is very talented, and does not always display something that suits the reality you face. The videos made by “asli” teenagers uploaded on YouTube actually show a more realistic and accurate picture of teenagers than the picture of teenagers in film and television.

Realize that every year in your teenage years is not always the same.There is a six-year gap between the ages of 13 and 19. Every year, there will be a lot of differences. SMP life is certainly different from High School life, which is also different from early adult work life, college life, or even SMK life. For example, a 13-year-old boy who is very tall and often awkward can grow up to be a confident 18-year-old and follow a student regiment activity unit.

Develop your identity by focusing more on your own thoughts and goals than on the opinions of others. For most people, the teenage years are a time of anxiety. Stop thinking about those anxieties! Usually, the anxiety arises due to the opinions of others (e.g., thoughts such as “What if they do not like me later?” or “What if my mom gets angry because I don't want to major in medicine, like I want?”), and not your own opinion.

Stay alive and do what you want to do, without taking too much into consideration the opinions of others. If possible, you can dye your hair with colors that are “gila”, wear comfortable clothes (though not trendy), contact your heart, choose your own way of life, and choose your own way of life, and don't care what other people think of your choices.

In the end, what you live is your own life so live your life the way you want.Of course there are certain limits to this. For example, you may want to express your opinion and of course, you can say what is on your mind. However, do not let you offend others or start a debate in the wrong place.

Some social rules, such as prohibition against hitting others, are very important to follow. Try to learn and those moments that require you to listen/follow those rules, and not your own mind.

Explore and explore the things you are interested in. When you are, people always tell you to look for hobby activities, and there is a possibility that you at least have a basic interest in some things that can be explored. You can take advantage of your interest. Think about whether you can choose something you want to train and make you want to spend more time on it (e.g., playing a musical instrument), or exploring a more specific field (e.g. switch from a hobby of writing simple texts to poetry or literary works). Do not hesitate to try new things.

It's never too late to find new interests and who knows you can find your passion!Try to "balance" your interests so that you have an interest in more diverse fields. For example, if your favorite hobby is computer programming, you might want to try a hobby that is more art-oriented, like painting. You can also try learning a new language. Just because you really like or are proficient in technology or art does not mean you can only be interested in the field. It's boring if you have an interest in one area only.Trace your style and interests.

Now is the time to experiment. Don't feel like you have to follow just one thing. You can try and explore various fields, from fashion, hobbies, to music and movies. You also should not feel constrained by traditions or labels that are widely trusted in the community. If you love to dress like a rock music fan, while you love country music, it doesn't matter. Just do what you like.

Even if you feel that others are not prejudiced against you, sometimes negative thoughts about certain groups can be embedded in your mind. Embedded prejudice against religious groups, race, sexual orientation (e.g. LGBT), and other groups can make it difficult for you to see the world clearly. No one resembles a particular stereotype. In addition, looking at the same some people with “other groups” concerned makes you unable to know and understand others as himself.

On a smaller scale, stop thinking negatively about people who have previously had bad experiences. They may not be as bad as you think they are, unless they ever harm you physically and/or mentally. If anything you know about it comes from an outside source, and not from the person himself, you won't even be able to know the truth about it! You don't have to be close friends with him, but try to be polite and respect him.

In addition, there is no harm in trying to be friendly to others. It's possible that he can surprise you and, as it turns out, is a different figure than the one you imagined!

Increase your work ethic. The world of school is heavy and requires you to study hard, but in adolescence, school becomes more important. Your achievement in adolescence can determine many opportunities that can be obtained in your life later as an adult. Take time to learn and strive to show the best achievements in SMP and SMA.

Instead of procrastinating, try to get your work done as soon as possible. Learn to set priorities, whether in school, work, or other extracurricular activities you participate in. Improve your learning skills (and try to make learning sessions more fun!).

Although not impressed fun, your efforts will be useful for your future later. After all, some teenagers—and not just nerds—just consider such a business form as an exciting thing!You don't have to get perfect grades and take special classes (e.g., accelerated classes or university entrance exam preparation classes).

However, at least try to take classes well and graduate from the subjects you follow. Do not laze because habits like this can lower your values.Do not do the task in a hurry because you want to immediately play and meet your friends.

Try to do it carefully so that you can learn new things. During this time, we often forget that the presence of school allows someone to learn, not lock it for several hours a day.

Therefore, there is no obligation to seek and determine who you really are at your current age. It is actually wrong if there is anyone who says that at this time you have to choose a university or determine what will be done for your future. Even if you feel you have decided what to do, don't be surprised if your plans change. You never know where your life will take you.

Try to improve your social skills. Some adolescents have difficulty interacting socially, of course, with a variety of reasons behind the difficulty. Because social interaction is an important aspect of success, it is important that you learn to cope with social anxiety.

Try asking friends or family members to develop your social skills. This may not just change your relationships with others, but at least it can be a good exercise to develop your social skills.

Adolescents with autism and other mental disorders (e.g., attention deficit disorder and hyperactivity or social anxiety disorder) may have obvious difficulties in social interaction. If you are an autistic person, try to learn how to develop better social skills, read other people's body language, and understand allusions and sarcasm.

It is important for you to learn how to interact in the social environment in general. If you have attention deficit disorder and hyperactivity (or any such disorder), you can learn not to interrupt others and dominate the conversation, focusing on others or the job at hand, and other.

Show a polite attitude to the unknown people.Every day, you will see unknown people, both in school and in other public spaces. You may find it nice to make fun of people you don't know, but it's actually rude and the person you're making fun of will eventually find out what you're doing. In the future, you will work with people you do not know.

Therefore, it's good to keep being polite to strangers. If you can do it, you can also try to be friendly. Your attitude will be appreciated by the people around you, even when you are not aware of it.If someone you do not know experiences a “konyol” moment that makes other people laugh at it (e.g., accidentally dropped a book), you will not know, don't laugh at him. Instead, help him pick up his things if you have the time. Such a thing is a form of kindness that he will appreciate, even though he may not show it directly.

Have some close friends. You don't have to be the most famous person and know anyone in school, but at least try to have some loyal friends to accompany you in your teens. Friendship can provide the right “space” to develop social skills.

In addition, building close relationships with others can help you determine your desires in your friendship and romantic relationships in the future. And the most important thing is that life will feel easier and brighter with the presence of friends.

Make sure your friends can make you feel good about yourself and not draw you into trouble. Surely you want to enjoy your teenage years, not go through difficult times because of "your friends"!Find a friend who makes you feel good about yourself and encourages you to show your best.

Hang out with friends you really like, and don't worry too much about your relationships with people who can't develop or improve your quality of life. Friends will come and go, and you will have friends with diverse numbers and personalities. It doesn't matter if you experience it. Although it sounds cliche, the most important thing is not the number of friends you have; the quality of your friends is the most important.

If you have trouble finding friends, try to find them in places that are visited by people like you. Are you part of the LGBT community? Find out if there are LGBT youth groups in your city (or special alliances that protect and fight for the rights of LGBT groups in your school/campus).

If you prefer writing to socializing, look for a group of writers in your town. If you have autism, try to find other people with autism to be friends with.If you can not find friends directly, try using social media. However, be careful when looking for friends on the internet. Online friendships develop in different ways than real-world friendships.

Many people in cyberspace do not mention their true identity so you will never know what and who exactly the person you are interacting with. Sometimes you don't talk or interact with people. Therefore, you should be more careful when making friends in cyberspace, and do not just agree to meet someone you meet on the internet in a closed environment. Don't give out personal information to people you meet on the internet unless you're sure you can be trusted. It's good you meet someone in the real world first before “bergeman” with him on the internet.

Do not rush into a relationship. Some (but not all) teens are attracted to romantic relationships and want to find a boyfriend. If you are involved in a relationship, go through the relationship without hurrying and communicate everything with it. Both of these can lead to healthier relationships over the long term. You should also not feel restricted by your partner.

Make sure the relationship you are in still allows you both to have your own friends and interests. Before you are ready, you do not need to rush to take a more serious step in the relationship.If your relationship ends, remember that this is not the end of everything. You may want to vow not to date again forever, especially if you are deeply hurt, but try to have an open outlook. Everyone will grow and change. Your relationship that went well six months ago can turn into a very chaotic relationship. In addition, remember that there are some couples who remain in a relationship during or after High School, despite having to undergo a long-distance relationship or being hindered by other factors.

Beware of violent relationships. If you feel anxious every time you meet or be with him, try not to get angry or hit you, or can't talk to others comfortably without being accused of cheating, these are important signs that indicate that the relationship you are living is not healthy and you should leave it immediately. The same is true for friendships that are “toxic”.

Keep a good relationship with your family. Family members—especially parents—may worry you a lot in adolescence. Many teenagers become shy, introverted, and no longer want to appreciate their families like they used to. Try not to be that kind of person. Family is one of the important “connection” in your life. Family is a building block for all the relationships you live, whether friendship, romance, or family that you will build in the future.

In addition, your family members are the figures you see and meet every day. It doesn't hurt to be nice and spend time with your family, does it?You don't have to be very familiar with anyone in your family, but try to stay nice and spend time with them every once in a while. Play a video game with your sister, help your sister do her job, take your mother for a walk, or play a board game with your father.

Don't stay in your room all day and just look at your family at mealtimes.Repair your relationship with your brother. It doesn't matter if you've had an argument or a fight with your brother, but remember that a relationship with a sibling is usually the longest one in your life. You can also be a supporter, mentor, and friend, both now and later when you age.

Beware of family members who are often violent. Your family may be one of the closest friends you have, but sometimes family can also have a negative impact on your life. If your parents always put you down, there's a good chance they've been emotionally abusive to you.

If your brother hits you often, it indicates the physical violence he has committed against you. Usually, you can reduce the inner hurt or improve the situation by talking to your best friend or facing directly family members who experience violence. However, know when you should report acts of violence against children.Take care of your closeness to other family members, such as your cousin.

Try to spend time with them if you can. You may not be able to meet them often so take advantage of the time you have to take a walk and spend time with your family!

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