IN-LAW AND IN-LAW TOXIC

Section 26. Father's Advice .

...Assalamualaik...

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Villia has been at her parents' house for a week while calming down from her toxic mother-in-law and sister-in-law.

"Earmmmm..."

Deheman's voice distracts Villia. Villia looked at the sound.

Smiling, "Papa."

Papa Ibrahim walked over, then sat down beside his daughter, "Papa understands your feelings and Papa is not intent to drive you out of the house but not every problem there is a solution if it is sought together. And it's time you came back to your house, it's not good to linger here to silence your husband. You certainly know if divorce in our religion is very scornful of god, so if it can still be repaired why not" said Papa Ibrahim masehi his daughter.

Yes, Villia has told all her household problems to both her parents. Villia did not know where else to complain if not to her parents. Villia felt a little relieved after pouring out all the grunts in her heart to her parents.

"Villia won't go home. Villia wants to be here. After all, Mas Varo will soon marry the woman of his parents' choice because Villia until today has not been able to give them offspring."

"Honey, the matter of offspring may still be able to be traveled in various ways so that you can have it. Technology is becoming more sophisticated. For example, a baby tube or adoption of a child. Every couple wants a marriage that is sad, mawadah and warohmah. Getting married is not an easy thing to do. Every couple has their own way of getting married. Getting married is not only after the marriage contract, but there is still a long journey. Living and maintaining a marriage also needs to be a struggle. Likewise with the decision to divorce, it takes a long and very mature consideration of why you and your partner are no longer suitable. Behind all that, while you and your husband are not officially divorced, there is still a chance to get back together. You and he are both committed to fighting each other in this marriage" Papa Ibrahim said.

"Then what about that woman? While Papa knows that Mas Varo is the son of Mami, a child who can not refuse the request of his parents including marrying the woman who is none other than his own ex. Not to mention the money that every time asked by Mama Widya and Sameya who used to fulfill their bad ambitions."

"Papa knows and understands your feelings. Papa knows that in this case it makes you very angry and upset. But, you also have to remember and do not forget, he is still a child for his parents. He still belongs to Mom and Dad who needs to be respected and cared for. Instead of trying to keep his family and mother away, you better determine what behavior is appropriate for tolerance and which behavior is not appropriate for tolerance. This is also for the sake of harmonious household. And remember never try to change your mother-in-law's behavior, because you'll never win. The solution is you have to stay friendly and respect her."

"All the behavior of Mama and Sister-in-law Villia no one needs to be tolerated. They've crossed Pah's line, they took everything from Villia."

When they were busy exchanging ideas, Mama Divya came with a tray of afternoon tea and snacks and sat down to join her husband and daughter.

"It seems like there is a serious conversation, Mama kepo nih" said Mama Divya with a smile.

But no one asked the mother question.

"Try to forgive her, don't get involved in arguments, and focus on your own life. The lesson we can learn from difficult relationships is to find ourselves again and build a relationship with ourselves. Let go of the feelings of anger and resentment, create a life that can work positively for you, so that you do not get caught up in heartache." Papa Ibrahim later said.

"Drink the tea!" mama Divya.

They also enjoyed afternoon tea with their family.

"Vill, before her Mama apologizes. Not that Mama kicked you out of the house, but shouldn't you go home by yourself. It's not good there's a problem with the husband but playing hazy. Sorry, Mama called your husband to come and pick you up here." said Mama Divya as she put her glass back on the tray.

Villia's eyes opened and almost choked on her tea, not believing the words of the mother.

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Varo's eyes were immediately fixed on the figure of a beautiful woman he had married for two years. She is Villia Caroline Ibrahim. Varo was already at his in-laws' house.

"Please sit!" father Abraham's.

"Assalamualaikum Villia" said Varo as he looked at Villia deeply.

"Why did you come here?" ask Villia not to believe it.

Varo tries to sit close to his wife but Villia instead shifts and makes the distance even greater between them.

"I want to pick you up. Let's go back to our house." said Varo expectantly.

"I want to stay here first."

"Mama called your husband to tell him to pick you up here."

"Why Ma? Villia still wants to be here." Villia whining.

"You are not a spoiled child anymore Vill who if there is a problem you always run to your parents' house. You already have a husband. Whatever your problem please resolve together. Come with your husband. It is not good for a wife to leave her husband alone. Finish your problems at home." said Mama Divya sage.

"But, Ma.." Villia's speech stopped because her Papa was cut off.

"You don't need to tell me anything about what kind of problems you have between you and your husband. You keep it a secret for both of you. Now you pack up and come home." cut up Papa.

"Dear, you come with your husband home. Mama is sad to see you guys kayak gini." said Mama Divya.

Varo kept staring at his wife. What will be Villia's next reaction. Varo noticed Villia's hand that could not stand still, her fingers were squeezed into each other. Varo tries to hold Villia's hand. Spontan Villia wants to pull him but Varo holds him tight enough that Villia relents.

"Let's go home, let's get everything done at home" Varo sweetly asked.

Varo stood up and then petrified Villia. Varo continues to hold Villia's hand not to be released.

"Ma, Pa, let's say yes. Sorry Varo yes." said Varo apologized and then salim to Mama and her father-in-law.

"Yes, Papa sorry. Take care of Villia well - yes." said Papa Ibrahim.

"Learning to forgive a husband's mistakes doesn't make a wife lose" Papa told Villia this time.