FRIENDSHIPS 2

Episode 3

In the first month of preparing for the wedding, we did not have many obstacles because we were very compact. Because of our long-standing friendship, yes. We don't think marriage is something to be afraid of, anyway. We have principles, anything can be discussed. Especially with the background of our long friendship. So all kinds of affairs about this marriage can be discussed until the solution is easily, right?

But can it happen and be accepted by the family?

We don't know either, because marriage is not just about marrying two people, but two families.

Well, it turns out that the problem came in the second month as we were preparing for the wedding. From choosing clothes, the family is very complicated. We both thought, this is not a difficult thing, but it turns out to make the color nentuin aja drag it.

But fortunately the problem can be solved if indeed the two brides are strong, can defend each other's opinions both. Whatever interruptions are given by both families, all of that is just a matter of consideration, because we already have our own vision and mission for this marriage.

I just want to say, when you want to get married, you should not be affected by the same right-left talk. Problems can be faced if you both can maintain the principle and continue to communicate well.

Like a company, we must have a blue point. Want to run a marriage is also the same as that, must have a proposal that can be spread it. So whatever the interruptions from the left-right are yes, it will be mental, because we already have our own grip.

In that first month, Ayu and I have explained our vision of mission like gini, nih. Whatever input is conveyed to us, it is all a consideration.

Yes, but for sure, it should not hurt the family too, anyway. At least, if what the family usulin in the right ear comes out the left ear, you can not also nanggepin their proposal with rough—moremore if until our family even become hurt. Because until anytime, we will ‘marry’ them too.

Fortunately the marriage that I will live with Ayu is our own expense. We also closed the possibility to be financed by the family so that we could run the wedding that we had thought before. That's our main recipe so that your marriage doesn't intervene much, hahaha.

Because of this experience, yes, in addition to clothes, it turns out that both our parents have many catering channels. So every day it was me and Ayu catering tests to appreciate both our parents. Although we already have our own choice, already know which catering to use, but appreciate the advice of parents is also important, do not immediately refuse because it can be taken into consideration as well.

The best thing, because we have been friends for a long time, anything can always be chatted. This is what makes the marriage fun with your own friends.

“Ditt, Mom says gini, same me,” said Ayu when I see her again.

“Udah, you're just horrified. Ms. Susi also said gini, want it this way,” I said while pointing to what I want to make our marriage this.

“Ya, justin aja.”

“Cha, this is nyokap lo kayak gini, I answer how, nih?” I said that while pointing a message from Ayu's mother to me.

Yes, Ayu finally gave advice to me what bales to nyokapnya. Anyway, so on. If our parents contact us, we will talk directly to the couple. Nothing is between us. Whatever our parents say, I always tell Ayu and vice versa. There is nothing to hide from our partner.

There was one moment where I said, “Mas, you really, want to get married but do not want to ask for help from parents? Remember, Mom, this is a big event. We are engaged, do not forget.”

“We do not want to engage parents, Mom,” replied me at that time. “Mother right, already know from the beginning, we already said what he wanted, already ditapin as well. So I'm waiting to be done, just sit sweet. Let us both take care of.”

“But, Mas, the name is also an event that engages two families, still dong we must be engaged.”

At last I could only nod. “Iya, Mother.”

That is, it turns out you can not take care of your marriage just the same couple you. Because, yes, like I said, getting married means you marry your family too.

What had made the dizziness was that when it had arrived in the second month, we had not been able to get a place for the reception. Because the place you want is not empty on the date we planned. Yes, right now, booking the building at least a year before the event. Here, we only have four months.

After another bit of dizziness and lightheadedness of the place, Ayu suddenly remembered one of the places located in Kemang. “To, you remember where I sweet seventeen?”

“Remember, in De La Rossa's, right?”

“We try to check there, yuk. I think the place is also good, make our event.”

Finally we tried to contact De La Rossa's side, and it turned out to be empty on the planned wedding date. Yup! We finally picked that place for the reception. Besides because it is available, we so repeat the memories of the place in the days of adolescence. I also remember very, there was, my photo was the same he fit at his birthday event, there I was still really cute. Ayu used to enjoy her sweet seventeen here, and now her wedding reception is here too, her best friend again.

Less cool what try?

But the closer the day is H, there is still a problem. The number of invitations is our main point. I went to Ayu, “Cha, what is the invitation, yes?”

Since the funds of this event are from both of us, we automatically know how much it will cost for all of this. Moreover, we also do not actually intend to hold our massive event. We want what really works for us and the people who work with us. Let it be more private and feel intimate.

“Mas, each family a hundred, yes,” said Ayu after we discussed and agreed together.

We have both decided on the number of invitations, but have yet to convey to both families that each family only gets one hundred invitations. Then I go again to Ayu, “When, Cha, would you like to say this?”

“A month before H aja,” said Ayu so.

Wh why? That's our way of not being protested. If it has been mepet right, will not be able to protest the macem-macem, hehe.

“Bu, the invitation is only a hundred, yes,” said I fitting me and Ayu meet together nyokap to discuss the progress of our wedding preparations.

“What?!” I was shocked, I couldn't believe what I just said. “No maybe a hundred. Friends only how many, not to mention your friend,” he said.

“Bu, but we want it to be more private, Mom,” said I, trying to give an excuse for him. Yes, in our opinion, why also the rame-rame if we do not know all who come.

I was really surprised when I was told about the invitation. I told him to think again. “Okay, Mom, you are yes, really, no respect for us. It's a wedding, Mas, Cha. Try it, you think again,” said nyokap, giving an opportunity for me Ayu to reconsider the issue of this invitation.

There I am the same Ayu can just be quiet. Finished the same nyokap me, finally we come to his mother Ayu.

The reaction of Ayu's mother is also not much different when Ayu tells about the number of invitations.

“Bu, the invitation is only one hundred, yes.”

“What?! What kind of mother's family is there? Which one here how?” Ayu immediately splashed when Ayu said so. “Opa Bing Slamet has eight children, Cha. That's new Opa Bing Slamet, not yet your other grandfather.”

Anyway, both my family and Ayu family, all protested with the number of invitations that felt very little. We couldn't solve the problem that day, and

trying to accept that. Well, whatever this reaction was we were expecting, anyway. That's why we know this is the H-30.

I'm the same Ayu finally met again, talking about the family's reaction to this. So that our family does not really panic, we finally talked to them, “Just relax, the invitation is not yet, kok.”

We are both looking for the right way to talk to the family without having to hurt both sides. Finally after a while we both thought and discussed, I was the same Ayu decided to bring our parents together, so that each can be open to each other about this issue.

“Sorry yes, because the invitation is really only two hundred,” I said when my parents and Ayu have already collected. And their reaction was completely different from what we had imagined. It is different from the way we talk to ourselves. Our parents became like that and finally

say, “Iya, it's okay, To, Cha, if it can only be that much.”

Maybe because we talked about it together, so they were a bit prestige or shy too times, huh. Collected like this no reaction ‘What?!’ kayak yesterday, no objection, all jaim, hahaha.

Because two families are cut down, there will be no rejection like before. It turns out a good way to communicate like this. Gathering two families directly to convey what we want. All are safe and we can also get good and brilliant ideas. There is no tuh, whose name is mutually satirical, angry, or mutually defeat one family with another.

We were also finally able to respond to everything more casually. Oh, so gini, huh? The marriage of friends turns out there are also problems. We had thought that the marriage was yes, lightly, easily, like memenan— but it was not as well. The boisterous one is also not the ribya, but his family.

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On the H-7, there are events that we will probably not forget for life. I was out of town to coincide with the schedule of my wedding technical meeting with Ayu. At that time I still have to work and finally Ayu has to leave alone to the location, because Ayu's mother also can not come. At the location of the event, then Ayu met with my nyokap. Not only nyokap me anyway, there are still many present from my family, while from the Ayu family only a few.

At first, I thought there would be no problem, because Ayu right, already very close to me. Yes, since we are still wearing uniforms, whose status we only validate, Ayu already deket same nyokap me. I think with his position that rose to become a prospective daughter-in-law will make things easier. But there was a problem.

H-7 is very hectic, but I can't participate much either. I kind of lost my hand because there was another gig at that time.

Abis technical meeting, Ayu called me while crying. Shocked, I was at that time. Why, children can cry gini?

Finally, by phone it was Ayu story, still crying. He seems to have a difference in understanding with me. Whining and putting out a sentence that makes me a bit upset too.

“Mas, if you think this, mending do not need to be married, deh.” Crazy little boy. I've been groggy like tremor people when they go to bed in Bali until yesterday's application event at his house, because there is a problem, want to retreat?

Strange pas knows Ayu had the same problem nyokap. Original, very confused, but Ayu is just as nyokap I was already sohib. How could it, anyway?

“What the hell, Mom said that? But you're right, deket same mother,” said me after he finished the story at length.

“Iya, Mas, the fitting time for marriage is now Mother so different? Yes, I want to be with you, Mom. Not getting married. I felt Mom, so fierce. Pantesan yes, from the first your boyfriend has always been rejected by Mother.”

I heard Ucha's complaint can only laugh. He was crying on the phone. “Eatya lo, karma right. In the past, I loved my same boyfriends.”

Ayu who was crying, so laughing because it is remembered about it is the same me. “Ber also yes, it turns out that, Mother, can be all that.”

Nyokap I do not like the same my girlfriends who used to— - in fact, you could say he does not like all my girlfriends. And this Ayu who used to— with the recenya, bed-wetting nyokap me—unnyokap I do not like the same my girlfriends.

“Maybe this time yes, it feels like being your girlfriends first. Lo's girlfriends first anyway, strong yes, nerima Mother who is like this.”

I can be relieved because Ayu can finally be a little calmer and ease her resentment.